So, you might have noticed this trend that’s been going around lately, where people are saying that Danes have figured out the secret to happiness and it’s called hygge.
Except if you ask any Norwegian about this Danish concept of hygge they will roll their eyes, because actually Norwegians came up with it first and, more importantly, Norwegians do it better.
Hygge is even originally a Norwegian term, but these days it’s more common for Norwegians to talk about kos, or as an adjective: koselig. Kos might be translated as “coziness,” but it also involves ideas of warmth, comfort, intimacy, relaxation, self-care, and indulgence. It’s the good part of life.
So how can you follow Norwegians to make your life koselig too? Up here in the Norwegian mountains of Rauland I’m actually living in the center of all things kos, as nothing is more koselig than spending time in a cabin in the mountains. So I’ve learned a thing or two about this secret to happiness:
Turn on all the lamps
You won’t find a single white light in Norway – this is a country of soft yellow lighting, preferably emanating from a lamp. So turn off all your main lights and get the lamps going instead.
Light some candles and make a fire
If lamps are big in Norway (and they are) candles and fireplaces are even bigger.
I’ve always liked candles fine, but I never really bothered lighting a lot myself just because it seemed like a waste. Like, why spend money on something you’re just planning on burning?
Uh, because they add magic to your life?!
Thanks to living in Norway, I’m now one of those people who lights a million candles in the height of summer. Then again, thanks also to living in Norway, the height of summer usually only means it’s about 20 degrees outside.
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Turn off the TV and turn on some music
Unlike what some of those hygge books tell you, kos isn’t all about surrounding yourself with cute pillows and blankets and mugs and well, stuff.
Norwegian cabins are often very simple, some even without running water, and they only use a few quality essentials. There will be some pure wool blankets and soft pillows probably inherited from a relative, good company, and maybe most importantly of all, good music.
Somehow in both Trondheim and now in Rauland I’ve found myself surrounded by musicians (I can probably blame Dan for that, since he’s also a musician). And while I used to be one of those people who could at least mildly enjoy whatever happened to be playing on the radio in the background to whatever else I was doing, I now get how much better it is to give my full attention to really good music. Kosemusikk.
I also used to be one of those people who would just play music from my phone or computer, but now I’ve learned that good speakers actually make a huge difference.
So when the people at Turtleneck reached out to me and asked if I’d like to try out their Høytrykk speaker I was all “yes please!”
First off, I love that this is made by a Norwegian company, because I heart everything Norway, but I also love that the speaker is so tiny and perfectly portable, because I also heart my backpack.
The Norwegian word høytrykk means “high pressure,” which is essentially how the tiny speaker works – it uses pressure to generate vibrations, which create sound across any flat surface.
So if you place the speaker on a flat table, or use its suction cup to attach it to a window or wall, it creates an amazing sound for something so tiny. Like, the sound actually comes off of the flat surface, kind of like magic (though I guess it’s actually science). It’s really cool to see how if you hold the speaker in midair it plays very quietly, but as soon as you place it on a flat surface it booms.
I think it’s Dan’s new favorite gadget, which says everything you need to know about how high quality it is, and it really is perfect for bringing with you on trips where you can’t be lugging giant speakers around.
Eat lots of sweets
Norwegians are kind of obsessed with chocolate and I love it. Of course eating clean and healthy is important too, but sometimes you just have to cosy up with something sweet, you know? Kos is all about being kind to yourself and indulging in simple delights, like a box of chocolates, a bowl of chips, or a freshly baked cinnamon roll.
Drink something hot
Hot cocoa, tea, coffee – it doesn’t really matter which you choose, but it’s definitely more koselig if your cup is steaming.
Go for a ski or hike
While you might think kos is all about being snuggled up inside, it’s just as important to get outside and enjoy the nature. Norwegians love going on long hikes or cross-country skiing tours where they can feel energized by the beauty of the nature around them. Plus after some active time outside you won’t have to feel guilty for all the chocolate you’re going to eat in the evening – and guilt has no place in kos!
Stay home with friends
It’s not like there’s a bar or even restaurant to hang out at here in Rauland, but even if there were I think my friends and I would still spend a lot of time hanging out at each other’s homes instead. This might be partly because eating and drinking out in Norway is expensive, but I think it’s also just so much more koselig to stay home with your friends.
I don’t think I’ve ever played as many board games in my life as I have during the one and a half years I’ve lived in Norway. And of course music plays a key role here too, as good music just makes an evening even more koselig.
Now pardon me while I put on some Lambchop (Dan and I went to a Lambchop concert in Oslo on Sunday and now I’m obsessed) and start on the pizza dough for tonight.
I’m leaving for Morocco in the morning and it’s currently blizzarding outside, so I have a perfectly koselig Norwegian evening planned with homemade pizza in front of a fire. Who said February was a dreary month?
Do you have any other tips for adding kos to your life?
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Cavaforlunch says
Sounds like you’ve really nailed our concept of hygge 🙂
Nynke says
I also love how Norwegians tell each other ‘kos dere’, i.e. ‘enjoy yourselves (in a ‘koselig’ way)’! It’s just such a perfectly lovely wish :). And I love how ‘kos’ can be anywhere, since it’s the atmosphere that counts :).
(Norwegian typo alert: ‘kosemussik’ should be ‘kosemusikk’).
Have a great trip to Morocco! It will be so non-Nordic for a change!
Mads says
I guess (as with most discussions about who came up with what first) it doesn’t really make sense. Denmark and Norway have had a long shared history. The word “hygge” dates back to the Kalmar Union in which most of Scandinavia was included.
I guess this argument also applies to where the vikings came from: It does not make sense to say Denmark or Norway, but more so Scandinavia.
Hav en hyggeligt dag! 😀
Silvia says
haha true, it’s just an excuse make a dig at those Danes! In a loving way of course 🙂
Audrey says
I’m currently making my winter in Canada a little more ‘koselig’ by rocking a onesie, bundling up in fuzzy blankets and drinking spiced chocolate chai. Oh, and throwing on some Netflix, of course! 😉
Silvia says
Oh my goodness, living the dream!
Ellen says
Hi Silvia,
I stumbled upon your blog yesterday and absolutely love it! Thanks for writing so extensively about Norway!
There’s very exciting times coming up for me since I will visit Norway for the first time in October. This is not your standard holiday visit though: I have serious plans to move to Norway. I am currently focusing on the Stavanger area (you said it had the toughest dialect, so I better start seriously studying Norwegian) since they have 2 International schools where I can hopefully teach.
I will keep following your blog and hopefully will find lots more tips and experiences!
Kind regards,
Ellen
Mike says
Can you recommend some Koselig music?
Vanessa says
My favorite part about a ski or hike is the lack of feeling guilty too! The snacks and snuggles have been earned!
Shirley says
Hmmmm my mother’s side of my family is from Denmark. What you have described is the lifestyle we’ve always lived, in the mountains of Colorado. It seems funny to me to see it called different things. To us it has always simply been called “home”. But then again, they’ve only been in the USA for about 170 years. Lol😜